As parents we want to protect our children from failure and pain at all costs – don’t we?!? But, in reality in saving them from some pain now are we setting them up for failure later? I know it seems hard to comprehend that, but, I have observed it many times over the years. Parents thinking that they are helping, but in the long run it only hurts…
In this article Jeremy Lee (One of my fellow ministry heroes) shares an article I believe every parent should read about how pain can actually be our friend. What?!? – Yep, he offers 27 gifts that pain can bring. Check it out and see what you think. It may just change a bit of the way you parent in the future. Love partnering with you, Pastor Greg
27 Gifts that Pain Has to Offer You
We spend most of our lives avoiding pain. I get that. Pain hurts. My natural instinct when I experience pain is to try to avoid it, medicate it, ignore it, or numb it.
Parents of Teenagers expend a ton of energy shielding, protecting, and guarding their teenager from pain. I don’t blame them for that.
BUT NO PARENT IS STRONG ENOUGH TO KEEP PAIN FROM THEIR TEENAGER FOREVER
Pain happens. I remember reading about children who were born without the ability to experience pain. My first reaction was, “That child is so blessed.”
Then I learned that those children would injure themselves and never know it. Imagine that. What must it be like to have a bone broken and never even know it?
You see pain is not all bad. Pain has a purpose in my life. Pain has purpose in your life. And pain can be a gift to your teenager.
HERE ARE 27 GIFTS THAT PAIN HAS TO OFFER
1. The glorious realization that we are not in control of everything.
2. The recognition that we are hurt and need healing.
3. The understanding that we need others.
4. The cleansing power of tears.
5. The truth that tomorrow is not guaranteed so treasure today.
6. Being forced to leave what is comfortable and try something new.
7. An openness to new thoughts and ideas that were previously ignored.
8. Capturing all the important life lessons that our decisions have consequences.
10. Remembering the importance of family.
11. Being forced to live life one minute at a time.
12. A new understanding of what is really important.
13. We are forced to face our fear.
14. Developing a sensitivity to others in pain.
15. An opportunity to learn that there are no quick fixes to healing.
16. Being forced to ask for help.
17. The opportunity to discover who are your true friends.
18. Adventure. An adventure is filled with pain. An adventure without pain is called vacation.
19. An opportunity to discover that you have more strength in you than you ever
20. The strength of spirit that comes from surviving it.
21. The opportunity to acquire maturity.
22. The lesson that can be learned from our mistakes.
23. The all important understanding that the attempts to temporarily numb our pain typically only brings more pain.
24. The ability to identify what is wrong.
25. The passion to find a cure.
26. A new understanding of love’s power.
27. The opportunity to grow up.
About Jeremy Lee
Jeremy is a 20 yr. Youth Ministry veteran. In 2011 he started ParentMinistry.net He’s also the creator of ParentZilla.com and co-creator ofUthmin.net. He was on the writing team for theSimple Truth Bible and the Ignite Bible for Young Teens. He lives in Nashville, TN with his beautiful wife and two boys.